Did you get to experience the magic of saying “As you wish” to your beloved? Not to worry, it takes time and a bit of practice. I know you’ll do it and be happier as a result.
I have to apologize to those of you who were waiting with baited breath for the third and final installment yesterday (almost as excruciating as awaiting the final movie of the Lord of the Rings trilogy, but not quite). Life was handing me one of those days where it’s moving so fast and I’m trying to continually keep up – kind of like trying to catch a butterfly with your bare hands. So what’s been going on?
I have received hundreds of perplexed (ok angry) emails asking about my last blog. It seems the proverbial pot got stirred. Here’s a sampling:
What? You must be kidding! Say “as you wish” without question? Isn’t that letting go of our own personal wants and needs?
Doesn’t it mean we’ll be setting ourselves up to be taken advantage of?
What about boundaries? (See Blog: No Pain, No Gain)
What about my boss?
What about my clients?
What about my teenagers?
Are you out of your mind? (Quite possibly)
Wouldn’t my wife/husband ask me to do unreasonable things, or go on endless shopping sprees if I said as you wish?
Ok, first off I recommended trying this with your beloved first before experimenting on anyone else. I am making a HUGE assumption that your beloved will not pretend you’re a contestant on Fear Factor and have you eating handfuls of sea worms. There is a level of respect and trust that is the groundwork for all of this. And it definitely takes faith. Remember this is not about the “me”. It’s about expanding and feeling the magic that can occur between two people when they both open to each other fearlessly. I could respond to each and every email but I won’t.
What I really want to say is that the final leap of faith (As You Wish – Part Three) is about saying that easy little phrase to Life itself. To stand in the face of all the craziness and uncertainty in life that I know we all experience from time to time and say, maybe a bit reluctantly, but say it anyway – AS YOU WISH! Again it’s not about putting yourself in harms way, or being abused, or laying down and giving up. It’s about accepting that Life is happening and you’re a huge part of that. By saying “as you wish” you are letting Life know that you trust Life (just like you trust your beloved). This connection to Life expands as a result, and so do we.
When I look back on all the resistance I felt towards change (Life), I see how much energy I used fighting it. Yet in retrospect I can see how I always was in the perfect place for what I needed to learn in that moment. From where I sit now Life has always brought me exactly what was best for me to keeping growing and changing as a human being. The more I resisted the more I suffered. The more I saw every experience as a link in a chain, or a common thread woven into what is now my beautiful life, the happier I became. Saying “As you wish” to Life is the final leap of faith.
It really is the leap into the unknown. And doesn’t that get your heart racing? I sit here right now at my desk with many things planned for the day. But in reality I have no idea what’s going to happen today no matter how proactive & highly effective I think I am. So what to do?
Just say it. C’mon. Let it slide off your lips. You know. That one simple little phrase.
As you wish!
Have a wonderful day and keep those sea worms where they belong!
J
I have to apologize to those of you who were waiting with baited breath for the third and final installment yesterday (almost as excruciating as awaiting the final movie of the Lord of the Rings trilogy, but not quite). Life was handing me one of those days where it’s moving so fast and I’m trying to continually keep up – kind of like trying to catch a butterfly with your bare hands. So what’s been going on?
I have received hundreds of perplexed (ok angry) emails asking about my last blog. It seems the proverbial pot got stirred. Here’s a sampling:
What? You must be kidding! Say “as you wish” without question? Isn’t that letting go of our own personal wants and needs?
Doesn’t it mean we’ll be setting ourselves up to be taken advantage of?
What about boundaries? (See Blog: No Pain, No Gain)
What about my boss?
What about my clients?
What about my teenagers?
Are you out of your mind? (Quite possibly)
Wouldn’t my wife/husband ask me to do unreasonable things, or go on endless shopping sprees if I said as you wish?
Ok, first off I recommended trying this with your beloved first before experimenting on anyone else. I am making a HUGE assumption that your beloved will not pretend you’re a contestant on Fear Factor and have you eating handfuls of sea worms. There is a level of respect and trust that is the groundwork for all of this. And it definitely takes faith. Remember this is not about the “me”. It’s about expanding and feeling the magic that can occur between two people when they both open to each other fearlessly. I could respond to each and every email but I won’t.
What I really want to say is that the final leap of faith (As You Wish – Part Three) is about saying that easy little phrase to Life itself. To stand in the face of all the craziness and uncertainty in life that I know we all experience from time to time and say, maybe a bit reluctantly, but say it anyway – AS YOU WISH! Again it’s not about putting yourself in harms way, or being abused, or laying down and giving up. It’s about accepting that Life is happening and you’re a huge part of that. By saying “as you wish” you are letting Life know that you trust Life (just like you trust your beloved). This connection to Life expands as a result, and so do we.
When I look back on all the resistance I felt towards change (Life), I see how much energy I used fighting it. Yet in retrospect I can see how I always was in the perfect place for what I needed to learn in that moment. From where I sit now Life has always brought me exactly what was best for me to keeping growing and changing as a human being. The more I resisted the more I suffered. The more I saw every experience as a link in a chain, or a common thread woven into what is now my beautiful life, the happier I became. Saying “As you wish” to Life is the final leap of faith.
It really is the leap into the unknown. And doesn’t that get your heart racing? I sit here right now at my desk with many things planned for the day. But in reality I have no idea what’s going to happen today no matter how proactive & highly effective I think I am. So what to do?
Just say it. C’mon. Let it slide off your lips. You know. That one simple little phrase.
As you wish!
Have a wonderful day and keep those sea worms where they belong!
J
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